Ask Yourself


This is the second in a four week series on dreams.

Four weeks will not unlock all your dreams and make them a reality….I am just hoping that this series will get you thinking…which will get you acting on your dreams.

This week I want to ask you some questions and I am hoping you will answer them in your journal.


I think this one is huge for many of us!

I asked my husband tonight and I love what he said.

He would do a 10 foot air at the skate park on his bmx bike.

He has always been a little afraid to do it because he could get seriously hurt.

He then asked me and I told him three HUGE things I would try.

I believe I will do the things I told him…but I would do them now if I KNEW I would be guaranteed success!

What about you?

This is a great question because for most of us we wouldn't lose anything…we only stand to gain so much!

If you jumped in right now and didn't let fear hold you back from following your dreams..what would you lose if you failed?

I can't think of anything I would lose!

OK..maybe a little money:-)

A few years ago I might have worried about looking foolish…but I don't really care about that anymore.

I might have said feeling stupid that everyone else saw that I couldn't do it…but anyone in my life at this time is a true friend and I know I can't gain anything without trying.

What do you have to lose?

This is such a big one!

Be honest.

You can listen to the lies of others and the lies from yourself.

Those little voices in your head that tell you to go for it or talk you out of it.

Those lies that say you are not good enough, your ideas will never work, you will fail and everyone will laugh.

Those lies that keep you right were you are at and keep you from growing.

These lies can affect every aspect of our lives.


I will introduce you to Rachel Barkey in the next few weeks….for now I wanted to share this quote.

Stop listening to those negative voices.


Talk back.

Talk to yourself when you hear those little whispers.

Whether this has to do with your dreams, children, marriage, home, friendships.

Take every thought captive.

I am currently reading Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow.

I loved a section I read this morning.

She asked that I write down a list of positive and negative things in my life.

If you have time … this right now.

My positive list was really long and full of amazing, beautiful and incredible things.

The negative list was very short.

She asked which list do I spend more time thinking about.

WOW…that little, insignificant list can really get me!!!

I can get so sidetracked from the beauty that is my life.

Do you?

Do you need to stop listening to yourself and start talking to yourself?

I am loving doing this series with you.

I am really excited about the next two weeks because I believe that it will be the heart of our whole time together talking about dreams.

I feel like these past two post have been a little like stretching before you run:-)

I hope you come back next Wednesday for the third post.



On a side note I wanted to share that my sweet friend Lara is selling her ticket to the SOLD OUT Artfest.

Another commitment (romantic, beach vacation) has forced her to give up her spot.

If you are interested in going (I would be JUMPING at this if I didn't already have plans) please email her at to get more information.

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  1. Kimberly

    Thank you so much for this. You have no way of knowing just how much your words were EXACTLY what I needed to hear this morning. I come to your blog because you feel like a friend and I feel like this could be a conversation we just had at a local cafe’. I hope that doesn’t sound too stalkerish 🙂 I just asked my husband this morning if we he thinks we are afraid of living the dream and he said “absolutely”. I can feel that it is our light we really do fear. Today, I am going for happiness. Today I am going to ask a question to two people. If they say yes my whole entire life will change almost overnight. Thanks for the push my friend.

  2. Angela

    Thank you for this post. I was just talking about this the other day in an email when I was announcing my blog. About four years back I had a very vivid literal dream about an entrepreneurial endeavor called The Artists’ House. In the dream, I saw a beautiful home where we had a gallery, studio space, and a living area all under the same roof. We’re not quite there yet, but we thought this website could help be the first step to working towards that dream.
    It’s important to follow dreams. Otherwise years from now I wonder what we will think of our lives.
    Thanks for the inspiration. I’ll tune in again next week.

  3. Brandie

    I am absolutely LOVING this dream series Jeanne! Absolutely beautiful words and so much food for thought. What a great question “what would you do if you knew you would not fail”. Wow, I have immediate answers to that and you are right what do I really stand to loose? At least 2 of them, nothing but a little time, money and maybe pride but really that is nothing in the whole scheme of things. This series is so encouraging and yes, stretching. I can’t wait to see what you have for us next:)

  4. Leah C

    A powerful question…I think I’ve spent a better part of my life being afraid of failure. Why?! Thank you so much for the encouragement:)

  5. Becky @ Farmgirl Paints

    I’m kind of in a rut right now. No creative juices flowing. I think it’s winter and how that affects me. There is the promise of Spring and with that season I know it will come back to me.
    Bought that book yesterday. Sounds great!

  6. kristin

    it is so hard living where i do…women are still taught to stay home…do your job as a mom and not give voice to your dreams…needless to say i don’t follow the norm ;0) i am terrified of starting new adventures; have failed in so many ways…but no because i didn’t succeed at what i set out to do but because i didn’t try…you only fail if you don’t try…
    since i lost my dad i have had so many regrets…we are here to live, to experience life to the fullest not to live with regrets…i decided that if i had a choice and knew i would regret not acting on that choice i would try my best not to let those regrets happen…i now own a small boutique…i will be attending brave girls this year and i am dipping into the world of mixed media…these are just a few dreams i am working on this year…these dreams desire to be bigger and they will in time…
    *sorry for the long post…just wanted to share :0)
    faded prairie

  7. kristin

    Lovin this post. Thank you.
    Oh I am so gonna dream and just jump in faith towards that dream.
    Hoping you make all your dreams come true and hope each of them perfect success…no failure allowed I say!!!!!!!

  8. Melissa Gruber

    Love this post…I am in a winter blah right now…it happens to me every winter…living in MN doesn’t help either! As I read your post…and came to the make a list of the positives and negatives in your life right now…my first thoughts were all negative…and that makes me so upset…I have a wonderful life, but right now if I am honest with myself I just think of the negative things…so I need to have a major attitude adjustment…and I need it to happen fast.
    A lot to think about in this post…can’t wait for next week.

  9. mkg

    Your design of this post is just lovely. Thank you for the thought-provoking questions and impacting encouragement.

  10. kate

    What a post! What I wouldn’t try if I knew I couldn’t fail, or get hurt!!! I do learn a lot in failure though, almost more than in success.
    Have a wonderful weekend,

  11. Crystal

    This is such a wonderful post. My son is graduating HS this year and I have been asking him these same questions. Then he turned and What about you, mom? Boy, if that doesn’t stop you in your tracks. I realize after dropping out of the corporate world about 10 years ago, to raise my children, I have a fear of failure “echo” in my head. Why? who knows. I am really trying to work through it and have a life on the other side of my children being gone.
    That is why I started this blog. Hopefully, to make some go friends and I certainly am finding a lot of inspiration. Now to just get out there and do it.
    Thanks for the reminder of “Who am I”

  12. stephanie

    this post is great! doesnt it seem like a time of examination in our lives right now? i love it! we get focused on what matters and we are renewed and refreshed..thanks for sharing! Stephanie

  13. Kacey

    I love that you’re doing this series! I think self-examination is so important, but so often pushed aside. Taking stock of our own dreams may help us to wake up a bit – and maybe even see the world differently.

  14. Tara

    This is such a great exercise Jeanne, thanks for doing this series on dreams…you are such an inspiration!

  15. Modern Prairie Girl

    I love that you’re doing this series—with such eloquence, of course–in the usual Jeanne fab flair 🙂 These are questions that need to be asked and you are the perfect cheerleader to present them to women in need. I think you are a marvel.
    Also–thanks for the Artfest shout-out–appreciate it. I hope someone can use the spot. I’m so sad that I can’t go.

  16. Mary

    I just want to give you a great big THANK YOU for this post. I am at a crossroads right now, and I am so confused as to what to do…business wise. I have opportunity before me, but I am so scared to jump in. I find myself constantly asking what is holding me back? The answer every single time is that I am not sure I can do it. What the heck is my problem?? Time I snap out of it and take the reigns here! I really needed this today, you have no idea. I am going to be back to re-rad this post over and over this weekend. ;o) ~mary~

  17. amy

    love that first bird! and rachel’s quote! again i am nursing and catching up on blogs. where’s the journal when you want it? by my bed, in a drawer, out of reach. great questions.

  18. emily ruth

    we have that first quote engraved in metal right by the computer…i love it…i have been away from the blogs for a bit & now i’m going back & reading what i missed…i love this series…thank you for the great questions…i’m excited to answer them & see what’s next…you are a blessing 🙂

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