Proof of Life

Journal Entry No. 09

Welcome to the Proof of Life journal entry series.

Writing more in general, and specifically with you, is something I hope to continue throughout the year.

Like many of you, life has become clearer over the past year and there are many things I have dropped along the way that I deeply desire to pick back up. In turn, there are things I never want to pick up again.

From the very beginning, I have always felt like we are on this journey together and I can’t wait to hear what proof of life will come to mean to you.



We recently were hiking in the woods around Nashville and as we were hiking along the trail there would be red or blue (based upon your trail) paint on the trees every so often letting you know you were still on the correct trail and that you were actually ON a trail. These signs are often called a blaze along The Appalachian Trail. I have always appreciated these simple signs along the way on most hikes letting me know that I am not lost or off the intended path.


During this most recent hike it crossed my mind that I really wish I had something so clear and simple to let me know I was on the right path in my real life. A clear red blotch of paint along the side of the road to cheer me on and let me know I am going the right direction. No red swatch of paint would be telling me to stop, regroup and find my way to the correct path.



In the woods and out in nature everything seems simple and clear. The distractions of life are not present and there is a connection with my surroundings, the murmurs of my own heart and the voice of God that is sweetly amplified. Over the years I have had to intentionally search out ways to draw this connection and clarity in hearing well in my own day to day in a very loud world. I need a red blotch of paint along my journey each day to know I am going in the right direction.


I know we each create intentional acts that help us find clarity and I hope that some of the ones I use will help you create your own.


Before I share any of the life and business filters that I use I want to add that my faith and time in prayer and in the Bible are the first intentional acts I do each day. I am easily distracted and I also know that if I don’t start my day in quiet that my day can get away from me. I also have multiple times a day that I walk or spend time in the garden without any distractions (mainly my phone). Creating and coming up with new ideas in general take a lot of quiet and time alone for me and this can not be compromised if I want to move forward and grow as an artist, businesswoman, and human.


Here are some of the life and business filters that I run everything through before I create a new product, say yes or no to a collaboration, take on more responsibilities etc. Many times my family is also involved in helping me answer these questions especially when their own day-to-day lives may be impacted.


*Do I even want to do this?


*Am I wanting to say yes because all of my peers are doing it and I am feeling left out?


*Do I want to say yes because I am afraid I won’t be asked again?


*Does this align with my faith?


*Does this xyz bring me closer or farther away from how I want my life to look and feel?


*Does it honor my family life and me being able to be as present with them as I want?


*Have I done my due diligence on this collaboration/person/business?


*Does this honor our finances?


*If I say yes to this it means I will have to say no to something else. Is it worth it?


*Am I wanting to say no because I am nervous or scared?


*Am I experienced enough to bring my best to this xyz?


*If I say yes have I honored my time and this xyz enough to do my best?


*Once I say yes or no can I be in 100% and feel good about my decision?


I add new filters when I think of them or when a new situation helps me learn and grow. I know these don’t always give me that red paint on the trees along the path but they help me to get something pretty darn close.