The Jeanne Oliver Podcast


In this episode I am talking with author, speaker and lifestyle blogger Trina McNeilly. Just living life we are bound to experience pain, anxiety and worry. When that comes how can we learn how to navigate life’s hardships so we come out of the other side more healthy and whole? We all have experiences we can’t get out of walking through but how can we learn how to do it well? Get your notebook and pen ready because this is a good one!



TRINA MCNEILLY is an author, speaker, and founder of the popular lifestyle blog, La La Lovely, where she has been sharing matters of the heart as well as design-related finds for over a decade. Hailing from a third generation newspaper family, Trina is right at home writing, editing, selling ads, and publishing.

Trina’s work also includes The Lovely Podcastspeakingart direction, styling, design projects, and freelance writing. She has been featured in the New York Times, Moody Radio, The Land of Nod Catalog, Design Mom: How to live with Kids: A Room-by-Room Guide, Apartment Therapy, and Style Me Pretty Living. While she has done a lot of writing on the topic of decorating homes, Trina’s true passion is helping to bring the message of finding our home in the person of Jesus. Her heart’s desire is to introduce others to the love of the Father. Through Him we find our identity and a full life that can start in even the emptiest of places.

Trina lives near Nashville with her husband, Stephen, and their four children.

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Episode Summary

Podcast 065| Overcome What Overwhelms You with Trina McNeilly

7:28 “Because what we’re seeing on our screens every day is mostly the highs and curated things. And I get it. We don’t want to just put all of the heart out there, but then—even unintentionally—your brain kind of gets programmed, “this is how it should be every day.””


12:46 “But it took someone saying to me “you’re grieving” and then learning those stages of grief and then realizing, okay, yeah, I am having a hard time even accepting this, or I am angry. I’m dealing with depression.”


13:53 “And we often just think trauma is a car accident or a death or a severe type of abuse. But most of us have experienced some form of trauma, a smaller T trauma, which I kind of had to unpack.”


16:02 JEANNE: “But you mentioned that one of your friends said that the divorce was a death. And a friend of mine had said to me, divorce is a death without a funeral. And that was so helpful because if my dad would have truly passed away, people would have helped my mom.”


19:24 “And sometimes, too, when we go through these hard things, we can carry a little bit of anger or resentment towards God. And I think sometimes it can be kind of veiled if it’s not coming out as, “how could you let this happen to me?””


30:31 “when we’re talking about strongholds, definitely look at your parents and your grandparents and what may be there generationally and observe what some of those patterns may be. Because that will tell you a lot and you’ll know real quickly if it’s a stronghold or not.”


36:19 “And my dad always kind of had this saying, “no decision is a decision.” And so by avoiding a lot of things I had to come to terms with, I’m still making a decision and I’m participating in my life in a non-participant way.”


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