Positive Gossip

This past January I went to Alt with Kimberly, Mel and Estelle.

I wrote about the weekend HERE.

The last night of the conference we were all relaxing, talking and having a few drinks before we all went our separate ways the next morning.

Around the table with me was Kim, Mel, Estelle, Beefy, Melissa, Courtney and Melissa (I wonder what the popular name was 30 something years ago..hmmmm).

Towards the end of the night Kim suggested that we play “positive gossip”.

We all know what typical gossip is.

There usually isn’t much good that comes from plain ol’ gossip.

With positive gossip we went around the group and told positive things about each person.

I am so thankful that Kim did this.

Not only did it end our conference on such a beautiful note but I felt like we were giving each person a gift.

How often do we stop and tell people the most beautiful parts of who they are?

We didn’t have a chance to do this on our weekend in San Francisco so I thought I would take the chance here.

Kimberly.

Some of you might not know Kim personally.

You might see photos of her little farm, beautiful meals that she prepares and her face on publications she is associated with.

These are all lovely parts of her life.

What you don’t see in the photos is the kindness that exudes out of Kim.

She is one of the most genuinely kind people that I know.

She talks with the waitress, cab driver, bus driver…everyone.

She genuinely engages with each person.

She loves people and cares more about others than she does herself.

She is the most knowledgable person I know about cooking, baking, gardening, animals but she plays all her gifts down because she doesn’t even see them as the extraordinary gifts that they are.

They all come so easily to her that she thinks nothing of them.

When you are in her home you feel lavished and comfortable.

When do those two words come together?

Kimberly makes that possible.

Being in her home and talking with her while she has cooked a meal is one of my favorite memories with her.

Talking with coffee in hand next to her roaring fire is my second favorite.

The words out of her mouth are lovely about everyone.

She loves her family deeply and makes unspoken sacrifices daily.  Of course she does…she is a mom.

She is beautiful and graceful.

She is wickedly funny and then she can also be deep and serious.

I love you friend.

Lissa.

If you don’t know Lissa personally maybe you have seen her blog and her gorgeous photos of her gluten free meals, lovely home and her obsession with organization.

These are lovely parts of her life but barely scratch the surface of who she is.

Lissa loves the Lord.

Deeply and honestly and with a bold love.

Lissa doesn’t realize that she makes people want to love the Lord more too.

She recently talked about a women that she spent an afternoon with.

She told about how lovely this woman was and that everything about her reflected her love of the Lord.

She talked about wanting to be like her.

Lissa, you are!

Lissa is pee your pants funny.

Every time I am with her I am laughing my butt off.

I don’t know what it is about the two of us but when we get together we act like we are five.

Really, really cool five year olds:-)

She loves her family and it is in her love of them that she wants to create a special home, good meals, sweet surroundings.

When I first came to Lissa’s home I was going from room to room taking photos.

It is so beautiful but it is so warm.

I didn’t expect that in an almost all white home.

From the moment you step into her home you feel comfortable and loved.

That is a gift.

Lissa also has deep joy.

When she is joyful about something her voice gets louder and you can’t help but smile too.

I hope that never changes about her.

There isn’t enough true joy around.

I love you friend.

What I cherish about both of these women is their love of family,  home, faith is first.

These above loves are what inspires them to plant gardens, make their homes lovely, spend all day on a meal, place flowers around their homes, play in the backyard, love on their husbands, worry about their children, entertain….

They love being homemakers and I love that about both of them.

When was the last time you shared some positive gossip?:-)

{All of the photos were taken by me in the markets of San Francisco}

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  1. mgriffin

    Wonderful post about your lovely friends. You are all blessed to know and enjoy each other so much! And those photos are just beautiful!

  2. Kimberly

    We totally forgot!!! I will have to do a post on that as well, as I loved that concept and really, can you ever engage in positive gossip enough?
    I love you girlie- such an amazing weekend spent with two incredibly special friends who inspire me and make me laugh endlessly.

    Love you.
    xx

  3. Lissa

    Jeanne!!! I read this with tears streaming down my face and then I read it to Neal. Your words are so generous yet absolutely everything I want to be!! After reading this post I just said, “thank you Jesus!”. You are so kind and I enjoy your friendship Immensely. Thank you for your friendship that is so generously offed. I love you so. I couldn’t be more grateful for that trip to San Fran with you girls. I learned something that weekend about friendship. Something I never want to forget. You two are crazy special to me.

  4. Judy

    Jeanne, thank you for the beautiful and uplifting post. On a similar note, although my husband is the stay at home parent and I go off to work (outside the home) each day, when I come home, we make a point of saying, ‘nice to see you, how are you?’ (Or something similar). We believe that this type of positive greeting sets the tone for a nice evening between us and our children. It is similar to positive gossip in that speaking kindly to others will put you in a great frame of mind!

  5. Nathalie

    I dont know either Kim or Lissa (sad face)!!! I have however, followed Lissa blog ever since I stumbled upon both of your blogs from Brave Girls…. Just knowing her blog, I can sense every word you wrote is 100 % true about her…. You are blessed to have such great friends and I am sure that they are also truly blessed to have you…..Thanks for sharing such positive words… the world needs more of it.

    1. jeanne Author

      I love that you have followed us since Brave Girls…that was awhile ago. I think when you have a high standard for friendship you are richly blessed. Seek out the positive and you find it!

  6. Leah C

    A beautiful post…love it! And what an incredible, amazing gift you just gave to your gal pals:)

  7. Ange

    Yup – that sounds like the beautifully fabulous Kim I love 🙂
    Now DAMMIT woman – get those gorgeous designer rags of yours over here so I can meet you too!!
    Much love
    xxx

  8. Lissa

    I have “known” Kim now for over 10 years and yearn for the day when I get to meet this amazing woman in person. I truly love her to pieces and loved reading your words Jeanne. I would feel blessed to have spent the week-end with her. As for Lissa ~ I love her heart and her faith ~ she leaves the most uplifting comments and her smile is contagious. What a great post!

  9. Lori

    I have “known” Kim now for over 10 years and yearn for the day when I get to meet this amazing woman in person. I truly love her to pieces and loved reading your words Jeanne. I would feel blessed to have spent the week-end with her. As for Lissa ~ I love her heart and her faith ~ she leaves the most uplifting comments and her smile is contagious. What a great post!

    (Don’t know why my name came up as Lissa!)

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